HAIR

Hair is a huge issue for women.  huge!  Having said that, I'm going to say this.  Do you despise yourselves, so much that you would wear the cast off sacrificial hair of another woman to define yourself.  Would you also then enter into a relationship with another, with   the full expectation that he/she anyone should accept you for WHO YOU ARE?(when you haven't accepted yourself)  BTW WHO ARE YOU?  DO YOU KNOW? Have you taken the time to explore yourself? This is not to say that weaves, wearing, falls, hairpieces etc from time to time to adorn yourself, or to create a different look isn't acceptable.  BTW it is actually fun to look different, do a recreational change up for yourself, for your beau give him a different perspective, LOL.  but permanent alteration of the self is based on false premise lack of love, it promotes disrespect from others and denegrates the self.  It creates a lack of self-worth, poor self esteem, diminishes self love.  Just because your were sold a bill of goods regarding your hair, your look, your skin tone, your type of beauty,  YOUR ESSENCE, doesn't mean you had to buy it.  Some of us particularly women of color are losing that essence, the trait, the component, the aspect of ourselves that make us unique and beautiful.  The superficiality of our society and this culture has created a fear in us about our value, it has us believeing that who we are isn't okay.  Do you believe that?  I have a bridge I can sell you, you want it?  Hecky no!   What can you do with a bridge right?  What can you do with a bunch of lies told to create fear and shame in you for yourself?   Please dump the misnomer and take a good long look at yourself and begin to focus on loving you,  who you are, just as you are!  This is for every woman,  but particularly those of African descent who have been shamed repeatedly regarding their beauty or lack thereof.  Clearly what I'm saying here isn't going to change the world, but it may change a world or two of someone, who will realize that they don't have to change themselves, they don't have to wear another womans hair to be lovely.   Hopefully it will say to them that they are beautiful exactly as they are.  Trust me, there is someone out there that will love you just as you are hair and all. Now that is a good thing because if he does that proves his truth and worth, because he isn't impressed by superficiality and that's what you want, right?  But you have to begin with yourself.  Accept yourself and .........guess what, if he wants you, he will accept you too,  just as you are.  You are beautifully and wonderfully made.  Don't cover the wonders of yourself with the wonders of another.  Be yourself allowing the authentic you to shine and radiate for all to see your wonder and authentic beauty.  For you are a sight to behold!