HAIR

Hair is a huge issue for women.  huge!  Having said that, I'm going to say this.  Do you despise yourselves, so much that you would wear the cast off sacrificial hair of another woman to define yourself.  Would you also then enter into a relationship with another, with   the full expectation that he/she anyone should accept you for WHO YOU ARE?(when you haven't accepted yourself)  BTW WHO ARE YOU?  DO YOU KNOW? Have you taken the time to explore yourself? This is not to say that weaves, wearing, falls, hairpieces etc from time to time to adorn yourself, or to create a different look isn't acceptable.  BTW it is actually fun to look different, do a recreational change up for yourself, for your beau give him a different perspective, LOL.  but permanent alteration of the self is based on false premise lack of love, it promotes disrespect from others and denegrates the self.  It creates a lack of self-worth, poor self esteem, diminishes self love.  Just because your were sold a bill of goods regarding your hair, your look, your skin tone, your type of beauty,  YOUR ESSENCE, doesn't mean you had to buy it.  Some of us particularly women of color are losing that essence, the trait, the component, the aspect of ourselves that make us unique and beautiful.  The superficiality of our society and this culture has created a fear in us about our value, it has us believeing that who we are isn't okay.  Do you believe that?  I have a bridge I can sell you, you want it?  Hecky no!   What can you do with a bridge right?  What can you do with a bunch of lies told to create fear and shame in you for yourself?   Please dump the misnomer and take a good long look at yourself and begin to focus on loving you,  who you are, just as you are!  This is for every woman,  but particularly those of African descent who have been shamed repeatedly regarding their beauty or lack thereof.  Clearly what I'm saying here isn't going to change the world, but it may change a world or two of someone, who will realize that they don't have to change themselves, they don't have to wear another womans hair to be lovely.   Hopefully it will say to them that they are beautiful exactly as they are.  Trust me, there is someone out there that will love you just as you are hair and all. Now that is a good thing because if he does that proves his truth and worth, because he isn't impressed by superficiality and that's what you want, right?  But you have to begin with yourself.  Accept yourself and .........guess what, if he wants you, he will accept you too,  just as you are.  You are beautifully and wonderfully made.  Don't cover the wonders of yourself with the wonders of another.  Be yourself allowing the authentic you to shine and radiate for all to see your wonder and authentic beauty.  For you are a sight to behold!

PURPOSE & VALUE

Something is just eating away at me today about Value and Purpose.  Not being negatively affected by what is on the outside and gaining more knowledge of who and what you are and being guided from the inside.  We as women are inundated with expectation from others and have been created to expect and accept this as our true nature and Purpose (there's that word again).  Not saying it isn't true just expanding on the concept a bit.  After all we are Mother of Humanity and Essence of the Creator of this Universe.  So what and who we are requires much of us.

There is just so much information, so much intrusion, so much of everything and it can be quite challenging to embrace one's self for self with so much propaganda.  What I am suggesting are asking is:  "DO YOU LIVE OUT FROM WHAT AND WHO YOU ARE"?

The other thing is that life is really (all)  about relationships and the people in our lives speaks volumes about, I don't want to say who we are, or even what we are but what we believe about ourselves, particularly those we've chosen. We are impressed, influenced by our relationships, no matter how subtle.

You see, we allow everything that occurs in our lives to happen and not knowing doesn't matter, life happens regardless of what you are conscious of , or lack awareness of.  The more Knowledge we have the more Power we have to determine what will and will not be a part of our lives.  Who we allow in and why, questions we ask or don't ask all of this is relative and relevant.  I probably just said the same thing with those last two words, but I like words, so look them up see what you think about it.  You're entitled.

As you may have heard we are all and one connected, as we are one with the Universe so whatever we think, do or say others are affected by as well.  Simple stuff I know, but do you know how many people don't get it.   If someone is in your immediate circle or very close to you then those individuals may be more affected than those who are just passing through your life and what you are experiencing.

John Lennon once said something like this "When you inspire someone else, you actually are motivating yourself as well, it's "Instant Karma".  My point when you "Uninspire" someone (my word), then you also "Uninspire" yourself, get my drift.

I also heard somewhere, or I read that the Moment you  think a thought, the moment you send it out, a reciprocation is framed to you, immediately.  That is still the "Instant Karma", concept.  BOOMERANG!

So don't be afraid to give away some Power, it's okay, when you can give Power away, it only means that your Personal Value is healthy. Trust me you don't lose anything by sharing.  Sharing is caring, so give with feeling; and you will expand yourself in the process.  Just know everything we do matters.  Absolutely everything even the smallest gesture, thought or action holds value and Yes Power.  All that we do, say or act upon is very, very powerful, test what I'm saying,  just try it you may be surprised at the outcomes.

So don't devalue yourself by believing that who you are and what you may have given was ever lost, it was not. And if you feel you've lost something, learn from the loss.  It was your purpose to do so, and you will be richly rewarded for your generosity at some point in your life.  Because we are  all interconnected and we all affect each other's lives.  So remember that the next time you feel Unvalued or Purposeless.  As you explore the deeper meaning of relationships, the why of them you may begin to understand how you as an individual may effect change in another because that is what relationships do. That is why you connected, why you crossed paths and the exchange that occurs would be your Purpose and Value, or Added Value to what is already exists; which is where this discourse began. 

Remember there is nothing RANDOM in our universe and there is no such thing as a COINCIDENCE, its all exactly what it should be!

You Matter, you are Worthy, where you are is exactly where you should be and everything you do is Significant, has Purpose and is Valuable, absolutely EVERYTHING!

Be where you are, Focus on what you Want in your Life and guess what It Will Happen!