I've read so many books, experienced much of life spanning generations and what I've realized is that not much has changed, not really. I'm sure you've heard that quote/cliche "The more things change, the more they stay the same." And, you know what it's really true.
We are tribal, generational, groupies and out of the box idealist, rightist, leftist, I could go on and on, but ultimately what we are, is the same as before with a different name.
Our world culture is one based on "FEAR", and fear creates a plethora of issues that we each must deal with individually and collectively. Most importantly, when we try and come together we come together based on these same beliefs and that is how our value systems are created based on "FEAR".
Now I don't know about you, but have you taken a good look at our world recently. The governments, the monetary systems, the wars and rumors of war? Doesn't it look as if we are pretty much in the same place we were say 100 years ago? Does it look as if our beliefs have changed enough to affect what we value? Does it?
Personally, I believe as a world culture we are "STUCK"; and I'm not sure if we are going to ever come unstuck. You see what we believe is killing us, creating same worn out ideals and thus the same outcomes. It is as if we are sleep walking moving right along without a true awareness of what is going on within which has everything with what is going on without.
So what are you feeling right now? Anything!? Fear rules the majority of our choices, what we do, why we do it, when we do it and WHOM we do it to or for. The awareness of this is huge because our consciousness of the Culture of Hate that is based on Fear that this world now lives in is shifting, and when it does, the unconsciousness, the lack of awareness that so many are clothed in where will they be?
Do you see yourself in any of this? If so what are you willing to do about it to bring about a change? WHAT? No, I'm not angry just wanted to make sure you think about what you can do to bring about a conscious contribution to the difference that is made. Am I making any sense here or does this sound crazier than war, hatred, lack of empathy or compassion. Lack of beauty, peace, joy and lack of consciousness? DEATH & KILLING. Where are you? Are you here? Can you see what I see? Take off your blinders and practice something kind today, something valuable, something significant. Listen and take from what you hear what is GOOD and right in it. Use all that you are in a peaceful, generous, considerate way. Practice a random act of love and get a rush, it actually feels really wonderful, quite exhilarating; like being high without the drug of fear to fuel it.
Have a FEARLESS DAY, I dare you!
Thursday, January 30, 2014
Sunday, September 23, 2012
CIVIL RIGHTEOUSNESS
The day Rosa Parks decided to take a seat at the front of the bus, was the moment the Civil Rights Movement Began, her decision not to go to the back of the bus that day created a new way of life for many including Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., who Led this life changing movement.
However I have a question who has really benefited from the Civil Rights Movement? In actuality neither the individual who began it or the man that led it benefited to the degree that we all would like to believe. It was the women of the Feminist Movement that followed, which gained the most momentum from it and eventually utilized the laws for themselves. Yesterday I attended an American Association of University Women (AAUW) meeting at Pacific Lutheran University in Tacoma, WA and I was the only woman of color in the room, it was glaringly apparent to me particularly because the topic of discussion was about women and their struggle that something was awfully wrong. The speaker was a historian professor and author from Evergreen University who very eloquently spoke on women's issues, was quite gender specific and I must say I was impressed however; being the only woman of color in the room, it dropped in my spirit that in the 21st Century even now today, this very moment; women of color are still challenged by lack of Civil Rights. Due to the fact that his group would not allow women of color to become members, women of color had to create their own organization for themselves, a parallel organization for the rights of women. Being a double minority and still struggling to identify their true identity after all this time. I was having a discussion with my niece and she is young, progressive and extremely intelligent and plans to produce films, I believe her viewpoint and perspective is very pure. She said Aunt you should blog this. So here we go.
Civil: adequate in courtesy and politeness: MANNERLY , I'm going to go with this one. What do you think? OR what about;
Civil: of relating, or involving the general public, their activities, needs or ways, or civic affairs as distinguished from special (as military or religions) affairs.
well now how am I doing?
Rights: Righteousness Upright
Being in accordance to what is just, good or proper
Suitable, appropriate
Genuine real
WOW right up my alley, just what I wanted to see, thank you Merriam Webster. com, online dictionary, you nailed it. See when I decided to title this blog Righteousness seemed more appropriate than rights, reason being you can LEGISLATE rights, but not righteousness because being righteous is a personal matter however you decide to use it. Because what the Civil Rights movement was based on is Civility, doing the right thing. But you can legislate civility. You can't put it in a bottle and sell it you just can't make people want to be civil nor righteous in the sense of integrity. Although most people love being RIGHT, but Righteousness is another category the type of righteousness I am discussing it's sort of like being PIOUS (marked by hypocrisy); like getting caught with your hand in the cookie jar, you want the cookie, but don't want to pay for it. Pretension!
This may be the only place I have as an individual to say what I truly believe and share how I feel and be completely honest about it. This is my seat on that bus, my way of saying that things haven't really changed very much. It was the 19th Century when Rosa and Martin collaborated with a lot of other people to protest lack of Civility, and they were very effective, but do you realize that it only worked for a select few. Pretty much the same select few that was privileged to begin with. But it wasn't a waste, because consciousness is a significant factor in growth and moving away from circumstances, situations, people in life that don't serve us. It requires or better said it allows us to go within and search ourselves and what we would like to see for ourselves. So Rosa Parks and Martin Luther King Jr., brought consciousness to a sleeping society, the movement awakened a consciousness in them that had just seemed right to them. These were and still are their reasoning's and they are entitled to them, although not at the cost of others rights. Too big a price to pay.
So the door was opened and some folks walked right through the door, however; it only remained slightly ajar for the rest and then it was slammed shut. Some of us wiggled our way through creating genres of our own, still being classified as something else, "Outside the Box" (which is a good thing). We now find ourselves in the 21st Century, what do you see?? How do you feel about the outcomes? How do you feel regarding who walked through that open door, carved for WHOM? How is the consciousness of our culture, how aware, what has changed, what is significantly altered or different than it was? How are your Civil Rights? Seen them lately? Are they okay? Are you feelin me? Do you feel any more acceptable than in the 19th Century if you were around, does it or does it not matter? For those of you who were not, what do you think?
There is a saying "The more things change, the more they stay the same". Seems like a very true statement at this moment in time NOW!
However I have a question who has really benefited from the Civil Rights Movement? In actuality neither the individual who began it or the man that led it benefited to the degree that we all would like to believe. It was the women of the Feminist Movement that followed, which gained the most momentum from it and eventually utilized the laws for themselves. Yesterday I attended an American Association of University Women (AAUW) meeting at Pacific Lutheran University in Tacoma, WA and I was the only woman of color in the room, it was glaringly apparent to me particularly because the topic of discussion was about women and their struggle that something was awfully wrong. The speaker was a historian professor and author from Evergreen University who very eloquently spoke on women's issues, was quite gender specific and I must say I was impressed however; being the only woman of color in the room, it dropped in my spirit that in the 21st Century even now today, this very moment; women of color are still challenged by lack of Civil Rights. Due to the fact that his group would not allow women of color to become members, women of color had to create their own organization for themselves, a parallel organization for the rights of women. Being a double minority and still struggling to identify their true identity after all this time. I was having a discussion with my niece and she is young, progressive and extremely intelligent and plans to produce films, I believe her viewpoint and perspective is very pure. She said Aunt you should blog this. So here we go.
Civil: adequate in courtesy and politeness: MANNERLY , I'm going to go with this one. What do you think? OR what about;
Civil: of relating, or involving the general public, their activities, needs or ways, or civic affairs as distinguished from special (as military or religions) affairs.
well now how am I doing?
Rights: Righteousness Upright
Being in accordance to what is just, good or proper
Suitable, appropriate
Genuine real
WOW right up my alley, just what I wanted to see, thank you Merriam Webster. com, online dictionary, you nailed it. See when I decided to title this blog Righteousness seemed more appropriate than rights, reason being you can LEGISLATE rights, but not righteousness because being righteous is a personal matter however you decide to use it. Because what the Civil Rights movement was based on is Civility, doing the right thing. But you can legislate civility. You can't put it in a bottle and sell it you just can't make people want to be civil nor righteous in the sense of integrity. Although most people love being RIGHT, but Righteousness is another category the type of righteousness I am discussing it's sort of like being PIOUS (marked by hypocrisy); like getting caught with your hand in the cookie jar, you want the cookie, but don't want to pay for it. Pretension!
This may be the only place I have as an individual to say what I truly believe and share how I feel and be completely honest about it. This is my seat on that bus, my way of saying that things haven't really changed very much. It was the 19th Century when Rosa and Martin collaborated with a lot of other people to protest lack of Civility, and they were very effective, but do you realize that it only worked for a select few. Pretty much the same select few that was privileged to begin with. But it wasn't a waste, because consciousness is a significant factor in growth and moving away from circumstances, situations, people in life that don't serve us. It requires or better said it allows us to go within and search ourselves and what we would like to see for ourselves. So Rosa Parks and Martin Luther King Jr., brought consciousness to a sleeping society, the movement awakened a consciousness in them that had just seemed right to them. These were and still are their reasoning's and they are entitled to them, although not at the cost of others rights. Too big a price to pay.
So the door was opened and some folks walked right through the door, however; it only remained slightly ajar for the rest and then it was slammed shut. Some of us wiggled our way through creating genres of our own, still being classified as something else, "Outside the Box" (which is a good thing). We now find ourselves in the 21st Century, what do you see?? How do you feel about the outcomes? How do you feel regarding who walked through that open door, carved for WHOM? How is the consciousness of our culture, how aware, what has changed, what is significantly altered or different than it was? How are your Civil Rights? Seen them lately? Are they okay? Are you feelin me? Do you feel any more acceptable than in the 19th Century if you were around, does it or does it not matter? For those of you who were not, what do you think?
There is a saying "The more things change, the more they stay the same". Seems like a very true statement at this moment in time NOW!
Thursday, August 23, 2012
HAIR
Hair is a huge issue for women. huge! Having said that, I'm going to say this. Do you despise yourselves, so much that you would wear the cast off sacrificial hair of another woman to define yourself. Would you also then enter into a relationship with another, with the full expectation that he/she anyone should accept you for WHO YOU ARE?(when you haven't accepted yourself) BTW WHO ARE YOU? DO YOU KNOW? Have you taken the time to explore yourself? This is not to say that weaves, wearing, falls, hairpieces etc from time to time to adorn yourself, or to create a different look isn't acceptable. BTW it is actually fun to look different, do a recreational change up for yourself, for your beau give him a different perspective, LOL. but permanent alteration of the self is based on false premise lack of love, it promotes disrespect from others and denegrates the self. It creates a lack of self-worth, poor self esteem, diminishes self love. Just because your were sold a bill of goods regarding your hair, your look, your skin tone, your type of beauty, YOUR ESSENCE, doesn't mean you had to buy it. Some of us particularly women of color are losing that essence, the trait, the component, the aspect of ourselves that make us unique and beautiful. The superficiality of our society and this culture has created a fear in us about our value, it has us believeing that who we are isn't okay. Do you believe that? I have a bridge I can sell you, you want it? Hecky no! What can you do with a bridge right? What can you do with a bunch of lies told to create fear and shame in you for yourself? Please dump the misnomer and take a good long look at yourself and begin to focus on loving you, who you are, just as you are! This is for every woman, but particularly those of African descent who have been shamed repeatedly regarding their beauty or lack thereof. Clearly what I'm saying here isn't going to change the world, but it may change a world or two of someone, who will realize that they don't have to change themselves, they don't have to wear another womans hair to be lovely. Hopefully it will say to them that they are beautiful exactly as they are. Trust me, there is someone out there that will love you just as you are hair and all. Now that is a good thing because if he does that proves his truth and worth, because he isn't impressed by superficiality and that's what you want, right? But you have to begin with yourself. Accept yourself and .........guess what, if he wants you, he will accept you too, just as you are. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Don't cover the wonders of yourself with the wonders of another. Be yourself allowing the authentic you to shine and radiate for all to see your wonder and authentic beauty. For you are a sight to behold!
Monday, July 9, 2012
PURPOSE & VALUE
Something is just eating away at me today about Value and Purpose. Not being negatively affected by what is on the outside and gaining more knowledge of who and what you are and being guided from the inside. We as women are inundated with expectation from others and have been created to expect and accept this as our true nature and Purpose (there's that word again). Not saying it isn't true just expanding on the concept a bit. After all we are Mother of Humanity and Essence of the Creator of this Universe. So what and who we are requires much of us.
There is just so much information, so much intrusion, so much of everything and it can be quite challenging to embrace one's self for self with so much propaganda. What I am suggesting are asking is: "DO YOU LIVE OUT FROM WHAT AND WHO YOU ARE"?
The other thing is that life is really (all) about relationships and the people in our lives speaks volumes about, I don't want to say who we are, or even what we are but what we believe about ourselves, particularly those we've chosen. We are impressed, influenced by our relationships, no matter how subtle.
You see, we allow everything that occurs in our lives to happen and not knowing doesn't matter, life happens regardless of what you are conscious of , or lack awareness of. The more Knowledge we have the more Power we have to determine what will and will not be a part of our lives. Who we allow in and why, questions we ask or don't ask all of this is relative and relevant. I probably just said the same thing with those last two words, but I like words, so look them up see what you think about it. You're entitled.
As you may have heard we are all and one connected, as we are one with the Universe so whatever we think, do or say others are affected by as well. Simple stuff I know, but do you know how many people don't get it. If someone is in your immediate circle or very close to you then those individuals may be more affected than those who are just passing through your life and what you are experiencing.
John Lennon once said something like this "When you inspire someone else, you actually are motivating yourself as well, it's "Instant Karma". My point when you "Uninspire" someone (my word), then you also "Uninspire" yourself, get my drift.
I also heard somewhere, or I read that the Moment you think a thought, the moment you send it out, a reciprocation is framed to you, immediately. That is still the "Instant Karma", concept. BOOMERANG!
So don't be afraid to give away some Power, it's okay, when you can give Power away, it only means that your Personal Value is healthy. Trust me you don't lose anything by sharing. Sharing is caring, so give with feeling; and you will expand yourself in the process. Just know everything we do matters. Absolutely everything even the smallest gesture, thought or action holds value and Yes Power. All that we do, say or act upon is very, very powerful, test what I'm saying, just try it you may be surprised at the outcomes.
So don't devalue yourself by believing that who you are and what you may have given was ever lost, it was not. And if you feel you've lost something, learn from the loss. It was your purpose to do so, and you will be richly rewarded for your generosity at some point in your life. Because we are all interconnected and we all affect each other's lives. So remember that the next time you feel Unvalued or Purposeless. As you explore the deeper meaning of relationships, the why of them you may begin to understand how you as an individual may effect change in another because that is what relationships do. That is why you connected, why you crossed paths and the exchange that occurs would be your Purpose and Value, or Added Value to what is already exists; which is where this discourse began.
Remember there is nothing RANDOM in our universe and there is no such thing as a COINCIDENCE, its all exactly what it should be!
You Matter, you are Worthy, where you are is exactly where you should be and everything you do is Significant, has Purpose and is Valuable, absolutely EVERYTHING!
Be where you are, Focus on what you Want in your Life and guess what It Will Happen!
There is just so much information, so much intrusion, so much of everything and it can be quite challenging to embrace one's self for self with so much propaganda. What I am suggesting are asking is: "DO YOU LIVE OUT FROM WHAT AND WHO YOU ARE"?
The other thing is that life is really (all) about relationships and the people in our lives speaks volumes about, I don't want to say who we are, or even what we are but what we believe about ourselves, particularly those we've chosen. We are impressed, influenced by our relationships, no matter how subtle.
You see, we allow everything that occurs in our lives to happen and not knowing doesn't matter, life happens regardless of what you are conscious of , or lack awareness of. The more Knowledge we have the more Power we have to determine what will and will not be a part of our lives. Who we allow in and why, questions we ask or don't ask all of this is relative and relevant. I probably just said the same thing with those last two words, but I like words, so look them up see what you think about it. You're entitled.
As you may have heard we are all and one connected, as we are one with the Universe so whatever we think, do or say others are affected by as well. Simple stuff I know, but do you know how many people don't get it. If someone is in your immediate circle or very close to you then those individuals may be more affected than those who are just passing through your life and what you are experiencing.
John Lennon once said something like this "When you inspire someone else, you actually are motivating yourself as well, it's "Instant Karma". My point when you "Uninspire" someone (my word), then you also "Uninspire" yourself, get my drift.
I also heard somewhere, or I read that the Moment you think a thought, the moment you send it out, a reciprocation is framed to you, immediately. That is still the "Instant Karma", concept. BOOMERANG!
So don't be afraid to give away some Power, it's okay, when you can give Power away, it only means that your Personal Value is healthy. Trust me you don't lose anything by sharing. Sharing is caring, so give with feeling; and you will expand yourself in the process. Just know everything we do matters. Absolutely everything even the smallest gesture, thought or action holds value and Yes Power. All that we do, say or act upon is very, very powerful, test what I'm saying, just try it you may be surprised at the outcomes.
So don't devalue yourself by believing that who you are and what you may have given was ever lost, it was not. And if you feel you've lost something, learn from the loss. It was your purpose to do so, and you will be richly rewarded for your generosity at some point in your life. Because we are all interconnected and we all affect each other's lives. So remember that the next time you feel Unvalued or Purposeless. As you explore the deeper meaning of relationships, the why of them you may begin to understand how you as an individual may effect change in another because that is what relationships do. That is why you connected, why you crossed paths and the exchange that occurs would be your Purpose and Value, or Added Value to what is already exists; which is where this discourse began.
Remember there is nothing RANDOM in our universe and there is no such thing as a COINCIDENCE, its all exactly what it should be!
You Matter, you are Worthy, where you are is exactly where you should be and everything you do is Significant, has Purpose and is Valuable, absolutely EVERYTHING!
Be where you are, Focus on what you Want in your Life and guess what It Will Happen!
Tuesday, July 3, 2012
JOHNNIE GIRL
In traffic long line, flaggers holding the slow sign, they're making their time and a half overtime, tomorrow is fourth of July. I'm going nowhere, still deciding what I want my day to be like. Not much to do but listen to the conversations in my head so I begin to write.
My name is Johnnie, but I'm a female and often when someone calls and they hear a female voice, they say May I speak to Johnnie, and I say this is she. You know how it goes. Or they may say first meeting, things like all the colloquialisms, "Your dad must have wanted a boy", or "Did you say Jackie, or Joni or Joan"; NO. My name is Johnnie and yes I'm a girl.
All the assumptions people make when what is said doesn't fit, doesn't register, assumptions, notions, what should and shouldn't be, MY, MY, MY.
Where is this coming from, it's coming from what it is leading to. I'm working my way back to the middle, back to balance without judgments and assumptions of what should or should not be, only What Is! Guess what I'm okay with that, with being, with what is, with a name like Johnnie.
It suits me and it works, I am Johnnie and over the years I've defined the name, the persona of a woman named JOHN. A dichotomy an oxymoron, the reality. Life is pretty much like this and soo.......
Nothing in our lives is random, nothing is out of sync, out of place, unusual or unworthy of us. It is what it is!
My first post, upon my return following a long hiatus, living at the opposite end of the food chain, you know Maslow's law and getting another life perspective that again is rapidly changing. I'm excited about the change because it means transformation (no transformation without change), everyone wants to Transform but no one wants to Change but it requires a consciousness adjustment, believe me I've had one. Definitely a humbling experience, the kind that changes you forever, brings you to life, real life. Getting rid of all the dross and dead stuff the layers on the surface, that kind of change creating a New You, no name change but a spiritual elevation.
Going through the valley and trudging up the hill, cause sometimes you have to trudge, cause that's the only way you're going to get there. A consciousness flip, one that doesn't assume, doesn't depend on, doesn't forget to be gracious or grateful, one that goes with it, the flow that is, that kind of change.
One that considered being someone other than Johnnie, but Johnnie is my assignment and so that is who I'll be. Johnnie Girl. Ciao for now, see you around.
My name is Johnnie, but I'm a female and often when someone calls and they hear a female voice, they say May I speak to Johnnie, and I say this is she. You know how it goes. Or they may say first meeting, things like all the colloquialisms, "Your dad must have wanted a boy", or "Did you say Jackie, or Joni or Joan"; NO. My name is Johnnie and yes I'm a girl.
All the assumptions people make when what is said doesn't fit, doesn't register, assumptions, notions, what should and shouldn't be, MY, MY, MY.
Where is this coming from, it's coming from what it is leading to. I'm working my way back to the middle, back to balance without judgments and assumptions of what should or should not be, only What Is! Guess what I'm okay with that, with being, with what is, with a name like Johnnie.
It suits me and it works, I am Johnnie and over the years I've defined the name, the persona of a woman named JOHN. A dichotomy an oxymoron, the reality. Life is pretty much like this and soo.......
Nothing in our lives is random, nothing is out of sync, out of place, unusual or unworthy of us. It is what it is!
My first post, upon my return following a long hiatus, living at the opposite end of the food chain, you know Maslow's law and getting another life perspective that again is rapidly changing. I'm excited about the change because it means transformation (no transformation without change), everyone wants to Transform but no one wants to Change but it requires a consciousness adjustment, believe me I've had one. Definitely a humbling experience, the kind that changes you forever, brings you to life, real life. Getting rid of all the dross and dead stuff the layers on the surface, that kind of change creating a New You, no name change but a spiritual elevation.
Going through the valley and trudging up the hill, cause sometimes you have to trudge, cause that's the only way you're going to get there. A consciousness flip, one that doesn't assume, doesn't depend on, doesn't forget to be gracious or grateful, one that goes with it, the flow that is, that kind of change.
One that considered being someone other than Johnnie, but Johnnie is my assignment and so that is who I'll be. Johnnie Girl. Ciao for now, see you around.
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Natural Power of Seduction
Women have been so busy lately trying to make it happen, that they've forgotten who they are. Their true feminity has been pushed to the wayside and their behavior is more male than female.
What has happened is that when we believe we need to make something happen we get the old adrenaline going, puff ourselves up, psych ourselves out and then we do it, whatever it is!
This has got to stop. Women aren't men and what we should be doing is asserting our feminity, not our animus which is the male aspect of ourselves, or our Yang which is and expression of the male energy.
Don't misunderstand, we need both to be balanced, but we've gone way beyond balance anymore and have lost or forgotten to be women.
Our power and our energy is from the waist down, in the sacral and root chakras, where the womb is, where our legs our and yes where our sex is. I don't say this to create a big stir but to share a truth that has been forgotten.
Often I hear women saying they desire a relationship, they would like their men to be more loving, they would give anything to have a relationship that works. I say in order to have this desire fulfilled, you must remember what your role is as woman.
When a woman understands her energetic self, when a woman knows where her power comes from, and knows when and how to assert it then the relationship she desires most will come.
If you have two individuals all revved up on adrenaline, how can that work. It's like having two men butting heads at a football game.
Realize that something has to give, and women's roles is to be giving, nurturing, open and receptive. I don't mean being a pushover, I mean being a woman.
Relishing your womanly self, and sharing that, not only using your aggression, but being assertive in a very feminie way. Seduction is powerful when used correctly, not glamour, anyone can be glamorous (amorous), but seduction is natural it comes from an innate, inherent instinct within and when a woman knows this and uses it correctly she can have any relationship she desires.
Women were created to be seductive, not in a silly, stupid way, but in a wise, womanly way. If you ever seen a woman who can get whatever she desires, I can assure you it isn't because she is glamorous!
We are often led to believe this is so, but if you look at the divorce rate of women who are some of the most glamorous women, how does one explain this?
Seduction is from the soul, from the heart, don't overthink love, and do know that seduction is a huge part of it.
Women must come to know themselves in a deep place and realize that to have the relationship they desire they must learn what it means to be a woman.
Pay attention to those women who have beautiful lasting relationships make one of them your "sensual mentor", study love if you must, but remember that their are specific components to having the realationship you so ardently desire. It isn't lashes and lipstick and Victoria Secret
I assure you, it's what's in your heart and how much you know about the soul of the feminine woman.
What has happened is that when we believe we need to make something happen we get the old adrenaline going, puff ourselves up, psych ourselves out and then we do it, whatever it is!
This has got to stop. Women aren't men and what we should be doing is asserting our feminity, not our animus which is the male aspect of ourselves, or our Yang which is and expression of the male energy.
Don't misunderstand, we need both to be balanced, but we've gone way beyond balance anymore and have lost or forgotten to be women.
Our power and our energy is from the waist down, in the sacral and root chakras, where the womb is, where our legs our and yes where our sex is. I don't say this to create a big stir but to share a truth that has been forgotten.
Often I hear women saying they desire a relationship, they would like their men to be more loving, they would give anything to have a relationship that works. I say in order to have this desire fulfilled, you must remember what your role is as woman.
When a woman understands her energetic self, when a woman knows where her power comes from, and knows when and how to assert it then the relationship she desires most will come.
If you have two individuals all revved up on adrenaline, how can that work. It's like having two men butting heads at a football game.
Realize that something has to give, and women's roles is to be giving, nurturing, open and receptive. I don't mean being a pushover, I mean being a woman.
Relishing your womanly self, and sharing that, not only using your aggression, but being assertive in a very feminie way. Seduction is powerful when used correctly, not glamour, anyone can be glamorous (amorous), but seduction is natural it comes from an innate, inherent instinct within and when a woman knows this and uses it correctly she can have any relationship she desires.
Women were created to be seductive, not in a silly, stupid way, but in a wise, womanly way. If you ever seen a woman who can get whatever she desires, I can assure you it isn't because she is glamorous!
We are often led to believe this is so, but if you look at the divorce rate of women who are some of the most glamorous women, how does one explain this?
Seduction is from the soul, from the heart, don't overthink love, and do know that seduction is a huge part of it.
Women must come to know themselves in a deep place and realize that to have the relationship they desire they must learn what it means to be a woman.
Pay attention to those women who have beautiful lasting relationships make one of them your "sensual mentor", study love if you must, but remember that their are specific components to having the realationship you so ardently desire. It isn't lashes and lipstick and Victoria Secret
I assure you, it's what's in your heart and how much you know about the soul of the feminine woman.
Sunday, September 6, 2009
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