HAIR

Hair is a huge issue for women.  huge!  Having said that, I'm going to say this.  Do you despise yourselves, so much that you would wear the cast off sacrificial hair of another woman to define yourself.  Would you also then enter into a relationship with another, with   the full expectation that he/she anyone should accept you for WHO YOU ARE?(when you haven't accepted yourself)  BTW WHO ARE YOU?  DO YOU KNOW? Have you taken the time to explore yourself? This is not to say that weaves, wearing, falls, hairpieces etc from time to time to adorn yourself, or to create a different look isn't acceptable.  BTW it is actually fun to look different, do a recreational change up for yourself, for your beau give him a different perspective, LOL.  but permanent alteration of the self is based on false premise lack of love, it promotes disrespect from others and denegrates the self.  It creates a lack of self-worth, poor self esteem, diminishes self love.  Just because your were sold a bill of goods regarding your hair, your look, your skin tone, your type of beauty,  YOUR ESSENCE, doesn't mean you had to buy it.  Some of us particularly women of color are losing that essence, the trait, the component, the aspect of ourselves that make us unique and beautiful.  The superficiality of our society and this culture has created a fear in us about our value, it has us believeing that who we are isn't okay.  Do you believe that?  I have a bridge I can sell you, you want it?  Hecky no!   What can you do with a bridge right?  What can you do with a bunch of lies told to create fear and shame in you for yourself?   Please dump the misnomer and take a good long look at yourself and begin to focus on loving you,  who you are, just as you are!  This is for every woman,  but particularly those of African descent who have been shamed repeatedly regarding their beauty or lack thereof.  Clearly what I'm saying here isn't going to change the world, but it may change a world or two of someone, who will realize that they don't have to change themselves, they don't have to wear another womans hair to be lovely.   Hopefully it will say to them that they are beautiful exactly as they are.  Trust me, there is someone out there that will love you just as you are hair and all. Now that is a good thing because if he does that proves his truth and worth, because he isn't impressed by superficiality and that's what you want, right?  But you have to begin with yourself.  Accept yourself and .........guess what, if he wants you, he will accept you too,  just as you are.  You are beautifully and wonderfully made.  Don't cover the wonders of yourself with the wonders of another.  Be yourself allowing the authentic you to shine and radiate for all to see your wonder and authentic beauty.  For you are a sight to behold!

PURPOSE & VALUE

Something is just eating away at me today about Value and Purpose.  Not being negatively affected by what is on the outside and gaining more knowledge of who and what you are and being guided from the inside.  We as women are inundated with expectation from others and have been created to expect and accept this as our true nature and Purpose (there's that word again).  Not saying it isn't true just expanding on the concept a bit.  After all we are Mother of Humanity and Essence of the Creator of this Universe.  So what and who we are requires much of us.

There is just so much information, so much intrusion, so much of everything and it can be quite challenging to embrace one's self for self with so much propaganda.  What I am suggesting are asking is:  "DO YOU LIVE OUT FROM WHAT AND WHO YOU ARE"?

The other thing is that life is really (all)  about relationships and the people in our lives speaks volumes about, I don't want to say who we are, or even what we are but what we believe about ourselves, particularly those we've chosen. We are impressed, influenced by our relationships, no matter how subtle.

You see, we allow everything that occurs in our lives to happen and not knowing doesn't matter, life happens regardless of what you are conscious of , or lack awareness of.  The more Knowledge we have the more Power we have to determine what will and will not be a part of our lives.  Who we allow in and why, questions we ask or don't ask all of this is relative and relevant.  I probably just said the same thing with those last two words, but I like words, so look them up see what you think about it.  You're entitled.

As you may have heard we are all and one connected, as we are one with the Universe so whatever we think, do or say others are affected by as well.  Simple stuff I know, but do you know how many people don't get it.   If someone is in your immediate circle or very close to you then those individuals may be more affected than those who are just passing through your life and what you are experiencing.

John Lennon once said something like this "When you inspire someone else, you actually are motivating yourself as well, it's "Instant Karma".  My point when you "Uninspire" someone (my word), then you also "Uninspire" yourself, get my drift.

I also heard somewhere, or I read that the Moment you  think a thought, the moment you send it out, a reciprocation is framed to you, immediately.  That is still the "Instant Karma", concept.  BOOMERANG!

So don't be afraid to give away some Power, it's okay, when you can give Power away, it only means that your Personal Value is healthy. Trust me you don't lose anything by sharing.  Sharing is caring, so give with feeling; and you will expand yourself in the process.  Just know everything we do matters.  Absolutely everything even the smallest gesture, thought or action holds value and Yes Power.  All that we do, say or act upon is very, very powerful, test what I'm saying,  just try it you may be surprised at the outcomes.

So don't devalue yourself by believing that who you are and what you may have given was ever lost, it was not. And if you feel you've lost something, learn from the loss.  It was your purpose to do so, and you will be richly rewarded for your generosity at some point in your life.  Because we are  all interconnected and we all affect each other's lives.  So remember that the next time you feel Unvalued or Purposeless.  As you explore the deeper meaning of relationships, the why of them you may begin to understand how you as an individual may effect change in another because that is what relationships do. That is why you connected, why you crossed paths and the exchange that occurs would be your Purpose and Value, or Added Value to what is already exists; which is where this discourse began. 

Remember there is nothing RANDOM in our universe and there is no such thing as a COINCIDENCE, its all exactly what it should be!

You Matter, you are Worthy, where you are is exactly where you should be and everything you do is Significant, has Purpose and is Valuable, absolutely EVERYTHING!

Be where you are, Focus on what you Want in your Life and guess what It Will Happen!

JOHNNIE GIRL

In traffic long line, flaggers holding the slow sign, they're making their time and a half overtime, tomorrow is fourth of July.  I'm going nowhere, still deciding what I want my day to be like.  Not much to do but listen to the conversations in my head so I begin to write.

My name is Johnnie, but I'm a female and often when someone calls and they hear a female voice, they say May I speak to Johnnie, and I say this is she.  You know how it goes. Or they may say first meeting, things like all the colloquialisms, "Your dad must have wanted a boy",  or "Did  you say Jackie, or Joni or Joan"; NO.  My name is Johnnie and yes I'm a girl. 

All the assumptions people make when what is said doesn't fit, doesn't register, assumptions, notions, what should and shouldn't be, MY, MY, MY.

Where is this coming from, it's coming from what it is leading to.  I'm working my way back to the middle, back to balance without judgments and assumptions of what should or should not be, only What Is!  Guess what I'm okay with that, with being, with what is, with a name like Johnnie.

It suits me and it works, I am Johnnie and over the years I've defined the name, the persona of a woman named JOHN.  A dichotomy an oxymoron, the reality.  Life is pretty much like this and soo.......

Nothing in our lives is random, nothing is out of sync, out of place, unusual or unworthy of us.  It is what it is!

My first post, upon my return following a long hiatus, living at the opposite end of the food chain, you know Maslow's law and getting another life perspective that again is rapidly changing.  I'm excited about the change because it means transformation (no transformation without change), everyone wants to Transform but no one wants to Change but it requires a consciousness adjustment, believe me I've had one.  Definitely a humbling experience, the kind that changes you forever, brings you to life, real life.  Getting rid of all the dross and dead stuff the layers on the surface, that kind of change creating a New You, no name change but a spiritual elevation.

Going through the valley and trudging up the hill, cause sometimes you have to trudge, cause that's the only way you're going to get there.   A consciousness flip, one that doesn't assume, doesn't depend on, doesn't forget to be gracious or grateful, one that goes with it, the flow that is, that kind of change. 

One that considered being someone other than Johnnie, but Johnnie is my assignment and so that is who I'll be.  Johnnie Girl.   Ciao for now, see you around.

Natural Power of Seduction

Women have been so busy lately trying to make it happen, that they've forgotten who they are. Their true feminity has been pushed to the wayside and their behavior is more male than female.

What has happened is that when we believe we need to make something happen we get the old adrenaline going, puff ourselves up, psych ourselves out and then we do it, whatever it is!

This has got to stop. Women aren't men and what we should be doing is asserting our feminity, not our animus which is the male aspect of ourselves, or our Yang which is and expression of the male energy.

Don't misunderstand, we need both to be balanced, but we've gone way beyond balance anymore and have lost or forgotten to be women.

Our power and our energy is from the waist down, in the sacral and root chakras, where the womb is, where our legs our and yes where our sex is. I don't say this to create a big stir but to share a truth that has been forgotten.

Often I hear women saying they desire a relationship, they would like their men to be more loving, they would give anything to have a relationship that works. I say in order to have this desire fulfilled, you must remember what your role is as woman.

When a woman understands her energetic self, when a woman knows where her power comes from, and knows when and how to assert it then the relationship she desires most will come.

If you have two individuals all revved up on adrenaline, how can that work. It's like having two men butting heads at a football game.

Realize that something has to give, and women's roles is to be giving, nurturing, open and receptive. I don't mean being a pushover, I mean being a woman.

Relishing your womanly self, and sharing that, not only using your aggression, but being assertive in a very feminie way. Seduction is powerful when used correctly, not glamour, anyone can be glamorous (amorous), but seduction is natural it comes from an innate, inherent instinct within and when a woman knows this and uses it correctly she can have any relationship she desires.

Women were created to be seductive, not in a silly, stupid way, but in a wise, womanly way. If you ever seen a woman who can get whatever she desires, I can assure you it isn't because she is glamorous!

We are often led to believe this is so, but if you look at the divorce rate of women who are some of the most glamorous women, how does one explain this?

Seduction is from the soul, from the heart, don't overthink love, and do know that seduction is a huge part of it.

Women must come to know themselves in a deep place and realize that to have the relationship they desire they must learn what it means to be a woman.

Pay attention to those women who have beautiful lasting relationships make one of them your "sensual mentor", study love if you must, but remember that their are specific components to having the realationship you so ardently desire. It isn't lashes and lipstick and Victoria Secret
I assure you, it's what's in your heart and how much you know about the soul of the feminine woman.

Pink Panties

Women work as hard or harder than men do and it has always been this way. As women we have numerous other responsibilites that we must fulfill along with our work. If we are married, we have a husband whom we must make time for, and depending on the agreement we made early on in our relationship that could be a lot of additional work. If there are children, we also have a responsibility to them.

Now, nothing that I've said is new information, women have been doublebooked all of their lives. Women have been reared as nurturers and that has been their primary role, and it is a lovely role, however; thinking of oneself is equally as important. One cannot nurture, if they aren't nurtured as well. "At times that will require self nurturing."

Being fully feminine has never been more important than it is now, particularly if you have others that you must care for and share your soul with. As a woman we desire to still fill our womanliness, or softness, our beauty; and with so much to do we often forget about ourselves. Our femininty gets lost in roles and work, we do.

Women fill very significant positions and roles, princesses, queens, tv anchor, attorneys,entreprenuer, supreme court justices, first ladies, corporate presidents, many of which have a masculine tone, wouldn't you agree. Now I know I began this discourse with the role of wife & mother, however I do believe that any woman for the most part enjoys being one, and we must always consider ourselves and do something to engage our feminine self.

Now, most of you wear underwear, am I right? Well, for those of you who don't I guess you've already figured it out, but what I am proposing ladies is that you purchase yourselves lots of pink panties, with tons of lace and all kinds of frilly gizmo's on them and wear them daily under whatever it is you've got on. Pink because, it's a feminine color and what could be more fun than to have a drawer full of sexy, frilly, lacy, sexy, sensual, cool pink panties.

I'm serious, we've got to remember who we are, and everytime you get stressed, or you have to pull rank on some silly guy at work and he goes left on you and calls you some random name, you can just smile and remember what you've got on underneath your suit, or your slacks, or that lovely dress and put a wonderful smile on your face because you know what a sexy random name you are!

I am a woman, and I love being one, I love wearing beautiful underwear, and sometimes I think about what I've got on underneath my dress, or my jeans and I feel really sexy and it opens up a part of me that I don't often think about because I've so concerned about my business, how many clients I don't have today, and how high the prices of gas are, or what I'm going to do if people don't start showing up, you know what I mean.

So, I'm saying this to say that when we disconnect from all the craziness out there and we put something else on our minds, something as frivilous as our pink panties we feel better. Well some would say meditate, pray, say an affirmation, and I'm in total agreement with that. Got one for you. "I look hot in my Pink Panties." It's only an affirmation, and usually we say them to ourselves so whose going to know.

I am by no means rambling here, I'm working on a concept that says women can reclaim their feminity. It begins from within, and Pink Panties is a start. Relax, breathe, and open up, open your legs, relax in your feminine power. Now, I'm not saying wide open, but to open that part of yourself, and be relaxed, for that is where you power lies. My censor told me I was going to far.

And if you've forgotten altogether how to be sensual, sexy, hot, engaging, warm, ask a woman who does, watch her, make her your "sensual mentor", follow her lead and learn the ways of "The New Feminity".

Be bodly feminine, don't apologize for it. BE just as hot as you want to be, and savor yourself, and when you forget what a wonderful feminine speciman you are, go to the bathroom and look at your pink panties. I'm serious! LOL